Question Instructions: stating the instruction as a question. Technically, the child has the right to say “No” since you are asking a question. The parent is disempowered.
For example:
"Shouldn’t you be doing your homework now?”
“Isn’t it time to clean your room?”
Just imagine your clever child’s response ;-)
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Instructions should be clear, succinct, one at a time (2 max), and with enough time for a person to follow up. If you are to use a question, give a choice that you can live with (this can help minimize power struggles).
Better:
It’s 4:30. Time for homework.
It’s Saturday. Rooms will be clean before you can go outside and play.
Clean up time. Do you want to take a bath or shower?
Post a comment and let me know your thoughts.
Beverly Dolenz Walsh
Life and Family Coach
Imagine Your Life...Then Live It!
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